How to Survive Your Wife's Midlife Crisis
Why a midlife crisis is not the end of your marriage
It's as if everything changed overnight. “This is not the woman I married” crosses your mind as you struggle to make sense of what happened to your marriage.
In a midlife crisis, you're not dealing with a normal woman anymore.
You’ve just left the world of logical thinking and entered into the land of blaming, accusations, emotional, and physical chaos.
Learn how to stop feeling empty, sad and desperate and start feeling calm, collected, and centered. Suffering is ultimately a choice. Remain paralyzed by fear - or take action.
If you had a way to minimize chaos and avoid pushing her further away - even after a divorce has been filed...
Would you be ready for a new approach that gives you a proven path to get your family back?
"This course has greatly helped me understand and have compassion for my wife, and also stop blaming myself excessively for the state of our marriage. I am growing in confidence and not as reactive to my wife pushing away to establish her independence. I am able to be more calm.
The definition of the chaos kid and specifics about how to respond behaviorally when negative emotions were all over the place was so helpful. The worksheet "When Will I Get My Wife Back" was also very helpful as it made emotional work tangible (very needed for a man)."
Where do you and your wife fall on the Chaos to Purpose Scale?
If you’re married to a woman who has seemingly become a different person overnight, you are married to what I call a “Chaos Kid”.
This is a woman whose upbringing was traumatic, neglectful or chaotic.
There are different degrees of neglect that create a Chaos Kid but the bottom line is this – conventional marriage advice will NOT work for Chaos Kids.
The 5 Rules of a Chaos Kid Wife
It doesn’t matter how good or bad you’ve been as a husband, if she was married to someone else, it would be the same story.
One of the most difficult things you’ll be faced with is understanding the fact that you can’t treat her like a normal woman.
In this hostile environment, you must become you at your best to avoid pushing her further away. Gifts, cards, kind words, notes and affection will only push her further away from you and add fuel to the fire.
Troubled Childhood = Troubled Marriage
I'm Larry Bilotta.
For 27 years, I lived in a loveless marriage.
I didn’t really know my wife Marsha, and we had virtually nothing in common—except that which we hadn’t yet discovered: We both had a “chaos kid” inside of us, a combination of learned responses and beliefs, fears and value systems that were impacting our marriage directly.
And it set us on a collision course for decades of hell. Watch the video for my full story.
I’ve studied patterns in Chaos Kids for over 16 years. I paid a price to get the answers I’m sharing with you today and I don’t want you to have to go through what I did – lost, confused, angry and worried about your uncertain future.
It's since become my life’s work to demystify the source of human behavior and spread the word about the Chaos Kid Phenomenon and the idea that troubled homes create troubled marriages.
I’ve helped thousands of men learn to control their emotions, win their wife’s heart back and attract her back like no other man.
If you’re ready to get your hands on a plan that will help you weather the storm, you can access this course from the comfort of your home in under 5 minutes.
Stay with me if you want to learn how to get relief personally, save the girl and get the love of your life back.
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Mark Gungor, one of the most popular speakers on marriage speaks about Larry Bilotta
Mark is Sr. Pastor of Celebration Church, a multi-site church with five campuses across Wisconsin, and the CEO of Laugh Your Way America.
Mark speaks for churches, civic events, and business meetings and is a much requested speaker for the US Army.
Is this your New Reality?
The sooner you wrap your head around what a midlife crisis is, what to expect, how long it will last and how to survive it, the quicker you’ll get a grasp on how to weather this storm and avoid making things worse.
But I want you to go through this with a plan, rather than a blindfold.
This is not your fault - but it is your journey.
Take charge of it and create a life that brings you happiness.
INTRODUCING THE DOWNLOADABLE COURSE
How to Survive Your Wife's Midlife Crisis
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What you'll learn in this digital course:
What is a Midlife Crisis?
What caused this, how long will it last, why you should NOT listen to her hurtful words.
Learn What To Do & What Not To
How to protect your kids, avoid mistakes, and respond when the tension is high.
What To Expect When She Wakes Up
How to shorten her crisis, 7 phases of winning her back, how to anticipate the end.
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"Since listening to the course (several times), my communication is calm, particularly for our kids which is huge! I was at a total loss when I found your audio course.
I listen to your course over and over and I’m able to remain calm when she calls or comes by. She seems calmer as a result. My life if getting better and I owe you a huge thanks."
2-hour Coaching Call Audio
Gain a sense of peace, calm and freedom by learning what to expect during her midlife crisis. Learn why this is happening and how to protect your kids from generational trauma. Learn how to get your wife back with tips and advice to de-escalate the situation and become happier and more at ease.
Husbands: You Could Lose Your Wife to a Midlife Crisis
This guide walks you through common mistakes that prevent everything you do from backfiring. Don't start over again. Minimize the chaos and reconnect with her by avoiding these common setbacks.
When Will She Wake Up?
Once a great wife, now a complete stranger? You're not alone. Find out how long her midlife crisis will last. This exercise will help you predict when your wife will wake up from the MLC based on 8 key factors.
How is She Motivated?
This resource will help you see your wife based on who she is at heart so you can better relate, connect, and avoid ruffling feathers over simple personality differences.
Do's & Don'ts Cheat Sheet
Keep this helpful resource in your desk or a safe place at home to stay focused on what you should be doing to recognize patterns and avoid common mistakes you thought you were careful to avoid.
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"Larry, you are the only one to help me through this. I have sought help through church, select friends and Godly people.
At the end of the day, I just keep re-reading the how to survive course. Thank you for this incredible information."
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"Everything I read from you is encouraging and is helping me recover from my mid life crisis. Just knowing that I am a CHAOS KID is helping me gain self confidence."
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"Larry, your course has been a great source for understanding.
After reading and listening to everything you provided, I have a better understanding; a better approach; and, a better way to engage with my wife.
Your detailed outline of "how your wife is feeling" was everything I heard straight from my wife and the course gave me a better perspective of where she is and how she sees me."
Frequently Asked Questions
99% of the time, the answer is no. Chaos Kids in a midlife crisis are rarely open to new ideas, especially ideas that come from you. Chaos Kids refuse to accept responsibility or admit that they are wrong. In fact, just the opposite is true.
If you approach your wife with this information, she will tell you that YOU are the one who needs help and that you should “go fix yourself” because you are the cause of problems in the marriage. The rare exception would be if your wife has long been going through a midlife crisis and has finally seen the damage she has inflicted on the family. At this point in time your wife may be ready to learn, but most of the time, it is best to keep this to yourself for now.
If the 5 rules of a Chaos Kid at the top of this page ring true for your wife, she is going through a midlife crisis. While age is not always a factor, a troubled childhood home IS always a telltale sign of a midlife crisis. There are many things that can create a Chaos Kid. Even if you think she had a decent childhood, the fact that you're here now signals otherwise.
Anything your wife says to you at this point is based on the anger of her childhood. That anger is directed at you and YOU are now the enemy. Whether it is you or any other man, your wife would STILL go through this at some point in her life. Similar to a ticking time-bomb, your wife’s rage has been there since day 1 silently waiting to erupt since she was young.
For this reason, it’s important you don’t put too much emphasis on what your wife says to you. Chaos Kids’ emotions wildly vary from one day to the next. One day, she will want a divorce, the next, she’s not certain it is over. Nothing is permanent in a midlife crisis – even divorce papers. Your focus should be on surviving the crisis, maintaining the emotional security of your children, keeping yourself healthy (both mentally and physically) and not giving up on the love of your life.
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"I've listened to your course materials every morning when I woke up and every night for at least 2 years. The part where I could see it in her eyes was so spot on, it blew me away. I believe she is more like the girl I first fell in love with."
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