How to Survive Your Wife's Midlife Crisis

Why a midlife crisis is not the end of your marriage

It's as if everything changed overnight. “This is not the woman I married” crosses your mind as you struggle to make sense of what happened to your marriage.

In a midlife crisis, you're not dealing with a normal woman anymore.

You’ve just left the world of logical thinking and entered into the land of blaming, accusations, emotional, and physical chaos.

Learn how to stop feeling empty, sad and desperate and start feeling calm, collected, and centered. Suffering is ultimately a choice. Remain paralyzed by fear -  or take action.

If you had a way to minimize chaos and avoid pushing her further away - even after a divorce has been filed...

Would you be ready for a new approach that gives you a proven path to get your family back?

"This course has greatly helped me understand and have compassion for my wife, and also stop blaming myself excessively for the state of our marriage. I am growing in confidence and not as reactive to my wife pushing away to establish her independence. I am able to be more calm.

The definition of the chaos kid and specifics about how to respond behaviorally when negative emotions were all over the place was so helpful. The worksheet "When Will I Get My Wife Back" was also very helpful as it made emotional work tangible (very needed for a man)."

Jonathan Gordon

Brooklyn, NY

Where do you and your wife fall on the Chaos to Purpose Scale?

If you’re married to a woman who has seemingly become a different person overnight, you are married to what I call a “Chaos Kid”.

This is a woman whose upbringing was traumatic, neglectful or chaotic.

There are different degrees of neglect that create a Chaos Kid but the bottom line is this – conventional marriage advice will NOT work for Chaos Kids.

Chaos to purpose scale

The 5 Rules of a Chaos Kid Wife

  • She says what she doesn’t mean and what she means, she doesn’t say.
  • She believes her needs are more important than your needs.
  • She sells herself as somebody she's NOT.
  • Any good thing you do or say, she sees as a threat.
  • She wants what she can’t have and what she has, she doesn’t want.

It doesn’t matter how good or bad you’ve been as a husband, if she was married to someone else, it would be the same story.  

One of the most difficult things you’ll be faced with is understanding the fact that you can’t treat her like a normal woman.

In this hostile environment, you must become you at your best to avoid pushing her further away. Gifts, cards, kind words, notes and affection will only push her further away from you and add fuel to the fire.

Troubled Childhood = Troubled Marriage

I'm Larry Bilotta.

For 27 years, I lived in a loveless marriage.

I didn’t really know my wife Marsha, and we had virtually nothing in common—except that which we hadn’t yet discovered: We both had a “chaos kid” inside of us, a combination of learned responses and beliefs, fears and value systems that were impacting our marriage directly.

And it set us on a collision course for decades of hell. Watch the video for my full story.

I’ve studied patterns in Chaos Kids for over 16 years.  I paid a price to get the answers I’m sharing with you today and I don’t want you to have to go through what I did – lost, confused, angry and worried about your uncertain future.

It's since become my life’s work to demystify the source of human behavior and spread the word about the Chaos Kid Phenomenon and the idea that troubled homes create troubled marriages.

I’ve helped thousands of men learn to control their emotions, win their wife’s heart back and attract her back like no other man.

If you’re ready to get your hands on a plan that will help you weather the storm, you can access this course from the comfort of your home in under 5 minutes.

Stay with me if you want to learn how to get relief personally, save the girl and get the love of your life back.

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Mark Gungor, one of the most popular speakers on marriage speaks about Larry Bilotta

Mark is Sr. Pastor of Celebration Church, a multi-site church with five campuses across Wisconsin, and the CEO of Laugh Your Way America.

Mark speaks for churches, civic events, and business meetings and is a much requested speaker for the US Army.

Is this your New Reality?

  • She's angry about her childhood. Her childhood anger is now directed at you.
  • You have become the enemy.
  • Any good thing you do or say, she sees as a threat.
  • She says what she doesn’t mean and what she means, she doesn’t say.
  • She believes her needs are more important than your needs.
  • She sells herself as somebody she’s not.
  • She wants what she can’t have and what she has, she doesn’t want.

The sooner you wrap your head around what a midlife crisis is, what to expect, how long it will last and how to survive it, the quicker you’ll get a grasp on how to weather this storm and avoid making things worse.

But I want you to go through this with a plan, rather than a blindfold.

This is not your fault - but it is your journey. 

Take charge of it and create a life that brings you happiness.


How to Survive Your Wife's Midlife Crisis

Nothing is shipped to you. Access this digital online course at any time.

What you'll learn in this digital course:

What is a Midlife Crisis?

What caused this, how long will it last, why you should NOT listen to her hurtful words.

Learn What To Do & What Not To

How to protect your kids, avoid mistakes, and respond when the tension is high.

What To Expect When She Wakes Up

How to shorten her crisis, 7 phases of winning her back, how to anticipate the end.


One-time payment of $97

"Since listening to the course (several times), my communication is calm, particularly for our kids which is huge!  I was at a total loss when I found your audio course.

I listen to your course over and over and I’m able to remain calm when she calls or comes by. She seems calmer as a result.  My life if getting better and I owe you a huge thanks."

David Bosin

Miami, FL

Joe customer

What's Included?

2-hour Coaching Call Audio

Gain a sense of peace, calm and freedom by learning what to expect during her midlife crisis. Learn why this is happening and how to protect your kids from generational trauma. Learn how to get your wife back with tips and advice to de-escalate the situation and become happier and more at ease.

Husbands: You Could Lose Your Wife to a Midlife Crisis

This guide walks you through common mistakes that prevent everything you do from backfiring. Don't start over again. Minimize the chaos and reconnect with her by avoiding these common setbacks.

When Will She Wake Up?

Once a great wife, now a complete stranger? You're not alone. Find out how long her midlife crisis will last. This exercise will help you predict when your wife will wake up from the MLC based on 8 key factors.

How is She Motivated?

This resource will help you see your wife based on who she is at heart so you can better relate, connect, and avoid ruffling feathers over simple personality differences.

Do's & Don'ts Cheat Sheet

Keep this helpful resource in your desk or a safe place at home to stay focused on what you should be doing to recognize patterns and avoid common mistakes you thought you were careful to avoid.


One-time payment of $97


We understand privacy and discretion are important to you. This is why this course is delivered electronically online, rather than shipped to your home. Nothing will be shipped to you at any time.

Once you place your order, you will be redirected to a page where you can gain access to the course materials online. You will also receive an email with a link to the private course download page so you can reference the materials later on. If you misplace this email, simply contact our office and we will send you a link to gain access to the course again.

"Larry, you are the only one to help me through this. I have sought help through church, select friends and Godly people.

At the end of the day, I just keep re-reading the how to survive course. Thank you for this incredible information."

John Johnston

Fernanda Beach, FL

Mark customer

You'll Also Get Access to these Limited-Time Bonuses

BONUS #1: The Midlife Crisis Roadmap

For the men & women left behind

Learn the stages men and women travel through and identify your spouse on the midlife crisis roadmap.

Get tips on how long each phase lasts and strategies to handle your partner and avoid making the situation worse.

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BONUS #2: How to Become a Real Dad

Both mothers and fathers play a critical role in a child’s life. However, despite what most people think, fathers create emotional security while mothers provide children with social skills and abilities to relate with others. This guide makes the case why fathers create emotional security, with few exceptions to this rule.

You'll also receive the definitions of a "Real Mom, Real Dad, Real Wife and Real Husband". When you look at each of these important roles in this simple, straightforward way, you'll better understand how to support your wife and kids.

As a man whose wife is going through a midlife crisis, it is more important now than ever that you have a specific focus with your kids. This guide gives you the definition of a Real Dad so you can protect your kids from the chaos that goes hand in hand with your wife's midlife crisis.

BONUS #3:  The Flag Page Solution

The Flag Page is an accurate, interactive online solution that gives you a clear picture of where your heart is and how you succeed in life.

Thousands of people, churches, businesses’ and organizations have used the Flag Page to understand people and what motivates them in life. You’ll get two Flag Pages as my gift to you for ordering today. The Flag Page is regularly sold online for $24.99 each, so this bonus alone is a $50 value!

BONUS #4: The Chaos Kid Radio Series

You will also receive instant access to my Chaos Kid Radio series where you will hear from REAL Chaos Kids, married to other Chaos Kids who managed to find relief in their marriage.

One of the segments features special guest Debbie Berndt whose Chaos Kid husband got on a plane and left the country without notice!

Debbie shares what she learned about herself, her husband and her children as she reflected on their childhood programs and taught her children some of the insights she learned along the way. Debbie reveals some eye-opening revelations that truly changed her life.

"Everything I read from you is encouraging and is helping me recover from my mid life crisis. Just knowing that I am a CHAOS KID is helping me gain self confidence."

Ken Harrison

Baytown, TX

John customer

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Go through the entire course and if it’s not what you expected, simply send us an email and we will refund your payment in full. I can’t be any fairer than that.

"Larry, your course has been a great source for understanding.

After reading and listening to everything you provided, I have a better understanding; a better approach; and, a better way to engage with my wife.

Your detailed outline of "how your wife is feeling" was everything I heard straight from my wife and the course gave me a better perspective of where she is and how she sees me."

John Richards

Lehigh, FL

Frequently Asked Questions

Should I get my wife involved?

99% of the time, the answer is no. Chaos Kids in a midlife crisis are rarely open to new ideas, especially ideas that come from you. Chaos Kids refuse to accept responsibility or admit that they are wrong. In fact, just the opposite is true.

If you approach your wife with this information, she will tell you that YOU are the one who needs help and that you should “go fix yourself” because you are the cause of problems in the marriage. The rare exception would be if your wife has long been going through a midlife crisis and has finally seen the damage she has inflicted on the family. At this point in time your wife may be ready to learn, but most of the time, it is best to keep this to yourself for now.

how do i know if my wife is going through a midlife crisis?

If the 5 rules of a Chaos Kid at the top of this page ring true for your wife, she is going through a midlife crisis. While age is not always a factor, a troubled childhood home IS always a telltale sign of a midlife crisis. There are many things that can create a Chaos Kid. Even if you think she had a decent childhood, the fact that you're here now signals otherwise.

what if she's filed for divorce and told me it's over?

Anything your wife says to you at this point is based on the anger of her childhood. That anger is directed at you and YOU are now the enemy. Whether it is you or any other man, your wife would STILL go through this at some point in her life. Similar to a ticking time-bomb, your wife’s rage has been there since day 1 silently waiting to erupt since she was young.

For this reason, it’s important you don’t put too much emphasis on what your wife says to you. Chaos Kids’ emotions wildly vary from one day to the next. One day, she will want a divorce, the next, she’s not certain it is over. Nothing is permanent in a midlife crisis – even divorce papers. Your focus should be on surviving the crisis, maintaining the emotional security of your children, keeping yourself healthy (both mentally and physically) and not giving up on the love of your life.

how will the charge appear on my credit card statement?

On your credit card statement, the charge will appear as an abbreviated version of our business name, which is Life Discoveries Inc. On your statement it will show “Life Discov” or “Life Discoveries”. If you are concerned about this, you can use PayPal, purchase a pre-paid Visa card or send a money order to the address found at the bottom of this web page.

is anything shipped to my home?

We respect your privacy and understand discretion is important to you right now. The materials in this course are sent to you by email. Under no condition, will anything be shipped to your home – now or into the future.

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Once your order is processed, you'll be redirected to a private page with all of your materials. You'll also receive an email with a link to the materials so you can access it at any time. Access to this course does not expire!

"I've listened to your course materials every morning when I woke up and every night for at least 2 years. The part where I could see it in her eyes was so spot on, it blew me away. I believe she is more like the girl I first fell in love with."

Ross Prada

Brisbane, Australia

Larry Bilotta
Author of "How to Survive Your Wife’s Midlife Crisis"

P.S. No matter what you decide, trust that you will be okay in the end. If you aren't okay, it's not yet the end.

P.S.S. There is nothing shipped to you, so you don’t have to worry about your wife finding out about this course and you don’t have to wait for it to arrive. You’ll get access to the entire course and all 3 bonuses immediately after you order.

No matter what country you live in, the language, events, happenings and pain of a midlife crisis are universal. You have my support and you are backed by my 100% satisfaction guarantee for a full 30 days, so you’ve got nothing to lose and a much greater understanding of the pain that the love of your life is going through right now and why she (and your kids) desperately need your help.