Why a Midlife Crisis is NOT the End of Your Marriage
Here’s How to End those Anxiety-Ridden, Sleepless Nights Dwelling on All the Hateful things Your Wife Has Said and Done, While Worrying about Your Uncertain Future
It's as if everything changed overnight. “This is not the woman I married” is a frequent thought that crosses your mind as you struggle to rationalize or make sense of what has happened. Midlife crisis, depression, post-traumatic stress syndrome – whatever you want to call it, your wife is in deep emotional crisis and you have an important decision to make.
Are you going to weather the storm with your wife or throw in the towel?
Every divorce is built on the same system that is created during your first ten years of childhood. For most of us, it is during this time that the future of your marriage is “locked in” or decided. Few people have the ability to buck what was injected into their brains during those first ten critical years.
Whether or Not You Will Be Happily Married is a Result of Several RISK Factors:
- The chaos in your parents’ marriage
- Whether or not your parents’ divorced
- The belief your parents had about divorce
- Your religious beliefs or lack thereof
- How your gender of parent treated the other
- How your parents handled conflict
All of these beliefs were determined in your first ten years. As an adult, your brain now runs a machine that keeps pushing you back there - back to a place called "Normal".
When you have very little programming with healthy instructions on how to care for your spouse, you have virtually no way to stop issues like these from invading your personal life:
- An affair
- Fights about sex
- Communication breakdown
- No loyalty
- In-law problems
- Falling out of love
- Second marriage conflict
- Angry blow ups
- No romance
- Being ignored
- Money problems
- Children problems
If you’re married to a woman who has seemingly become a different person overnight, you are married to what I call a “Chaos Kid”. This is a woman whose upbringing was traumatic, neglectful or chaotic. There are different degrees of neglect that create a Chaos Kid but the bottom line is this – conventional marriage advice will NOT work for Chaos Kids.
Where Do You and Your Wife Fall on the Chaos to Purpose Scale?
A Chaos Kid is angry about their childhood and that childhood anger is now directed at you. YOU have become the enemy. Everything you do and say is a threat. It doesn’t matter how good or bad you’ve been as a husband, if she was married to someone else, it would be the same story.
There Are 5 Rules of a Chaos Kid Wife You Need to Understand
- She says what she doesn’t mean and what she means, she doesn’t say.
- She believes her needs are more important than your needs.
- She sells herself as somebody she’s not.
- Any good thing you do or say, she sees as a threat.
- She wants what she can’t have and what she has, she doesn’t want.
In this hostile environment, you must become you at your best to avoid pushing her further away. Gifts, cards, kind words, notes and affection will only push her further away from you and add fuel to the fire.
Now that we’ve confirmed your wife is a Chaos Kid, one of the most difficult things you’ll be faced with is understanding the fact that you can’t treat her like a normal woman. You’ll try to rationalize, make sense of the situation, buy cards for birthdays and holidays, apologize often, tell her you love her like you would in a normal marriage.
But Be Warned - All of These Things Will Backfire. A Midlife Crisis is a Whole Different Ballgame
You are NOT dealing with a normal woman anymore. You’ve just left the world of logical thinking and entered into the land of blaming, accusations, emotional and physical chaos.
So how are you going to weather the storm? What’s your plan?
There are a lot of misconceptions around the idea of a midlife crisis. Some people think only men go through a midlife crisis. Others hear “midlife crisis” and a middle-aged businessman driving off into the sunset with his twenty-something girlfriend comes to mind.
But the reality is, ALL Chaos Kids, both men and women, go through a midlife crisis.
If Your Wife Came From a Troubled Home, It’s Not a Question of IF; it’s Now a Matter of WHEN.
In over 15 years of working with couples, I’ve never seen one couple where both spouses came from healthy childhoods who had conflict in their marriage they couldn’t resolve on their own.
TROUBLED CHILDHOODS = TROUBLED MARRIAGES This is not a theory, it’s a fact.
And the sooner you wrap your head around what a midlife crisis is, what to expect, how long it will last and how to survive it, the quicker you’ll get a grasp on how to weather this storm and avoid making things worse.
In today’s society, a midlife crisis is an epidemic that is rarely discussed or explained and is often rationalized as a ‘mental illness’ by psychologists or those in the medical field. I’ve studied the patterns for over 15 years of Chaos Kids and what happens when their troubled childhood comes to get them as they enter a midlife crisis.
But I want you to go through this with a plan, rather than a blindfold.
To help you do this, I’ve created a comprehensive course called...
Unraveling the Chaos: How to
Survive Your Wife’s Midlife Crisis
Here’s a quick look at some of the insights you’ll learn in this course:
What a Midlife Crisis REALLY Is
The women at highest risk, What causes a midlife crisis and how long will it last, Classic phrases of a Chaos Kid Woman, why you should NOT listen to what she is saying
What to Do – What Not to Do
How to protect your kids from the chaos, What to do if your wife wants you to leave the house What to do if she is having an affair, How to act around your wife when the tension is high, Critical, yet common mistakes to avoid
What to Expect During and After It's Over
The 6 stages of a midlife crisis: what to expect from your wife, The quickest path to get through a midlife crisis, The 7 phases of winning your wife back, How to anticipate the end of a midlife crisis. And much more!
Before I go on, I want to answer some common questions that are likely on your mind right now.
Should I Get My Wife Involved?
99% of the time, the answer to this question is no. Chaos Kids going through a midlife crisis are rarely open to new ideas, especially new ideas that come from you. Chaos Kids refuse to accept responsibility or admit that they are wrong. In fact, just the opposite is true. If you approach your wife with this information, she will tell you that YOU are the one who needs help and that you should “go fix yourself” because you are the cause of problems in the marriage. The rare exception would be if your wife has long been going through a midlife crisis and has finally seen the damage she has inflicted on the family. At this point in time your wife may be ready to learn, but most of the time, it is best to keep this to yourself for now.
How Do I Know if My Wife is Going through a Midlife Crisis?
If the 5 rules of a Chaos Kid shown at the top of this page ring true for your wife, then she is going through a midlife crisis.
While age is not always a factor, a troubled childhood home IS always a telltale sign of a midlife crisis.
What if She Has Filed for Divorce and Told Me it’s Over?
Anything your wife says to you at this point is based on the anger of her childhood. That anger is directed at you and YOU are now the enemy. Whether it is you or any other man, your wife would STILL go through this at some point in her life. Similar to a ticking time-bomb, your wife’s rage has been there since day 1 silently waiting to erupt since she was young.
For this reason, it’s important you don’t put too much emphasis on what your wife says to you. Chaos Kids’ emotions wildly vary from one day to the next. One day, she will want a divorce, the next, she’s certain it is over. Nothing is permanent in a midlife crisis – even divorce papers. Your focus should be on surviving the crisis, maintaining the emotional security of your children, keeping yourself healthy (both mentally and physically) and not giving up on the love of your life.
Does Everyone Go Through a Midlife Crisis?
Absolutely not. People who come from a troubled home who live on the higher side of the Chaos to Purpose scale (shown above) do not go through a midlife crisis. Only those on the lower end of the scale are saddled with the dark programming ‘machine’ from their past. As an adult, this programming tries to recreate ‘normal’. If their life was filled with chaos, abuse and neglect as a kid, that is what the brain will try to recreate as an adult. We call this a midlife crisis.
What is Included and How is this Course Delivered?
1 1/2 Hour Coaching Call Audio Recording
Included in the course is a 1 1/2 hour coaching call audio recording where I walk you through “what if’s”, what to expect during your wife's midlife crisis, why this is happening, how to protect your kids and more. This comprehensive coaching call is delivered as an MP3, so you’ll be able to listen on your phone or portable device when you need inspiration most.
Husbands: You’ve Been Warned - You Could Lose Your Wife to a Midlife Crisis
You’ll also get a downloadable guide for men titled “Husbands: You’ve Been Warned - You Could Lose Your Wife to a Midlife Crisis”. This guide acts as your roadmap covering the key points you’ll need to remember to prevent everything you do from backfiring.
Midlife Crisis Survival Kit
And finally, there is a 3-page downloadable midlife crisis survival kit that includes:
The “When Will She Wake Up?” timetable:
This tool helps you predict when your wife will wake up based on the 8 variables that determine the length of a midlife crisis.
When Will She Wake Up? - Part 2:
This resource will help you see your wife based on who she is at heart so you can better relate, connect and avoid ruffling feathers over simple personality differences.
The 5 Do’s and 5 Don’ts to live by "Cheat Sheet":
You can print these important reminders and keep this helpful resource in your desk at work or in a safe place at home to keep you focused on what you should be doing and avoid making the mistakes that can lead to even more chaos.
How Do I Access the Materials?
After you order, you’ll be redirected to a private page where you can instantly download the materials in the course. You’ll be able to download them to your hard drive so you can print them out and read whenever you want. You’ll also receive an email as a backup.
Once you download the materials (which only takes a few minutes), you can save them on your computer. Other than the MP3 file, the remainder of materials are delivered as a PDF file that is a readable document file you can print out.
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To recap, you'll be receiving:
- A 1 1/2 Hour Coaching Call Audio recording where I walk you through “what if’s”, what to expect during a midlife crisis, why this is happening, how to protect your kids and more. This comprehensive coaching call is delivered as an MP3, so you’ll be able to listen on your phone or portable device when you need inspiration most.
- The "Husbands: You've Been Warned" Guide covering the key points you’ll need to remember to prevent everything you do from backfiring.
- The Midlife Crisis Survival Kit that Includes the “When Will She Wake Up?” Timetable. This timetable will help you predict when your wife will wake up based on the 8 variables that determine the length of a midlife crisis.
- When Will She Wake Up? Part 2: This resource will help you see your wife based on who she is at heart so you can better relate, connect and avoid ruffling feathers over simple personality differences.
- The 5 Do’s and 5 Don’ts to Live By "Cheat Sheet": You can print these important reminders out and keep this helpful resource in your desk at work or in a safe place at home to keep you focused on what you should be doing and avoid making the mistakes that can lead to more chaos.
You’re Not Crazy, It’s Not All Your Fault, But it IS Your Responsibility to Do Something If You Really Do Want This Woman
If you have children, they need you to hold this family together. And when you least expect it, your wife WILL throw you a major curve-ball that will rock your world (even worse than what you’ve already seen). It's only a matter of time.
And you need to be prepared for this when it happens. You don’t need to let your family become another divorce statistic, giving up on the woman you love just yet. Deep down beneath the layers of anger is a woman who needs you right now. If you have children, they need you now more than ever. A midlife crisis is a hostile experience to go through and one thing is for sure, just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, you’re not in Kansas anymore.
A Midlife crisis is a whole different world with different rules and different expectations that require a very different approach than most conventional marriage help would lead you to believe.
Because I want to make this midlife crisis survival plan affordable for you, I’m making it available to you for a one-time investment of $97. But I’m also throwing in some extra added bonuses to help you…
"Unraveling the Chaos: How to Survive Your Wife's Midlife Crisis" PLUS ALL the bonuses, is available to you today for $97.
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1) A 1 1/2 Hour Coaching Call Audio recording where I walk you through “what if’s”, what to expect during a midlife crisis, why this is happening, how to protect your kids and more. This comprehensive coaching call is delivered as an MP3, so you’ll be able to listen on your phone or portable device when you need inspiration most.
2) The "Husbands: You've Been Warned" Guide covering the key points you’ll need to remember to prevent everything you do from backfiring.
3) The Midlife Crisis Survival Kit that Includes the “When Will She Wake Up?” Timetable. This timetable will help you predict when your wife will wake up based on the 8 variables that determine the length of a midlife crisis.
4) When Will She Wake Up? Part 2: This resource will help you see your wife based on who she is at heart so you can better relate, connect and avoid ruffling feathers over simple personality differences.
5) The 5 Do’s and 5 Don’ts to Live By "Cheat Sheet": You can print these important reminders out and keep this helpful resource in your desk at work or in a safe place at home to keep you focused on what you should be doing and avoid making the mistakes that can lead to more chaos.
Author of "How to Survive Your Wife’s Midlife Crisis"
P.S. There is nothing shipped to you, so you don’t have to worry about your wife finding out about this course and you don’t have to wait for it to arrive either. You’ll get access to the entire course and all 3 bonuses immediately after you order.
P.P.S. No matter what country you live in, the language, events, happenings and pain of a midlife crisis are universal. You have my support and you are backed by my 100% satisfaction guarantee for a full 30 days, so you’ve got nothing to lose and a much greater understanding of the pain that the love of your life is going through right now and why she (and your kids) desperately need your help.