How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis

Why a midlife crisis is not the end of your marriage

It's as if everything changed overnight. “This is not the man I married” crosses your mind as you struggle to make sense of what happened to your marriage.

In a midlife crisis, you're not dealing with a normal man anymore.

You’ve just left the world of logical thinking and entered into the land of blaming, accusations, emotional, and physical chaos.

Learn how to stop feeling empty, sad and desperate and start feeling calm, collected, and centered. Suffering is ultimately a choice. Remain paralyzed by fear -  or take action.

If you had a way to minimize chaos and avoid pushing him further away - even after a divorce has been filed...

Would you be ready to adopt a new approach that gives you complete and a clear path to get your family back?

"Everything in the course is exactly on point with what I am dealing with. This course helped me gain control of myself even through many, many dark times.

He has slowly let go of some of his anger towards me, and seems a little more in control of himself. I just wanted to say thank you for helping me with the hardest period in my entire life."

Megan Peterson

St. Louis, Missiouri

Where do you and your husband fall on the Chaos to Purpose Scale?

If you’re married to a man who has seemingly become a different person overnight, you are married to what I call a “Chaos Kid”.

This is a man whose upbringing was traumatic, neglectful or chaotic.

There are different degrees of neglect that create a Chaos Kid but the bottom line is this – conventional marriage advice will NOT work for Chaos Kids.

Chaos to purpose scale

The 5 Rules of a Chaos Kid Husband

  • He says what he doesn’t mean and what he means, he doesn’t say.
  • He believes HIS needs are more important YOUR needs.
  • He sells himself as somebody he's NOT.
  • Any good thing you do or say, he sees as a threat.
  • He wants what he can’t have and what he has, he doesn’t want.

It doesn’t matter how good or bad you’ve been as a wife, if he was married to someone else, it would be the same story.  

One of the most difficult things you’ll be faced with is understanding the fact that you can’t treat him like a normal man.

In this hostile environment, you must become you at your best to maintain your own sanity and avoid pushing him further away. Gifts, cards, kind words, notes and affection will only push him further away and add fuel to the fire.

Troubled Childhood = Troubled Marriage

I'm Larry Bilotta.

For 27 years, I lived in a loveless marriage.

I didn’t really know my wife Marsha, and we had virtually nothing in common — except that which we hadn’t yet discovered: We both had a “chaos kid” inside of us, a combination of learned responses and beliefs, fears and value systems that were impacting our marriage directly.

And it set us on a collision course for
decades of hell. Watch the video for my full story.

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I’ve studied patterns in Chaos Kids for over 16 years.  I paid a price to get the answers I’m sharing with you today and I don’t want you to have to go through what I did – lost, confused, angry and worried about your uncertain future.

It's since become my life’s work to demystify the source of human behavior and spread the word about the Chaos Kid Phenomenon and the idea that troubled homes create troubled marriages.

I’ve helped thousands of women feel calm, comforted and valuable - and ultimately attract their husband back like no other woman.

If you’re ready for a plan that will help you weather the storm, you can access this course from the comfort of your home in under 5 minutes.

Stay with me if you want to learn how to feel relief personally and get your life back.

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Mark is Sr. Pastor of Celebration Church, a multi-site church with five campuses across Wisconsin, and the CEO of Laugh Your Way America.

Mark speaks for churches, civic events, and business meetings and is a much requested speaker for the US Army.

Is this Your new reality?

  • He's angry about his childhood. This anger is now directed at you.
  • You have become the ENEMY.
  • Any good thing you do or say, he sees as a threat.
  • He says what he doesn’t mean and what he means, he doesn’t say.
  • He believes his needs are more important than yours.
  • He sells himself as somebody he’s not.
  • He wants what he can’t have and what he has, he doesn’t want.

The sooner you wrap your head around what a midlife crisis is, what to expect, how long it will last and how to survive it, the quicker you’ll get a grasp on how to weather this storm and avoid making things worse.

But I want you to go through this with a plan, rather than a blindfold.

This is NOT your fault - but it is your journey.

Take charge of it and create a life that brings you happiness.


How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis

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Man in midlife crisis

What you'll learn in this digital course:


What caused this, how long will it last, why you should NOT listen to his hurtful words.

LEARN What to Do & What Not to Do

How to protect your kids, avoid mistakes, and respond when the tension is high.


How to shorten his midlife crisis, 7 phases of winning him back, how to anticipate the end.


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What's included?

2-hour coaching call replay

Gain a sense of peace, calm and freedom by learning what to expect during his midlife crisis. Learn why this is happening and how to protect your kids from generational trauma. Learn how to get your husband back with tips and advice to de-escalate the situation, and become happier and more at ease.

"WIVES: You've Been Warned"

This guide walks you through common mistakes that prevent everything you do from backfiring. Don't start over again. Minimize the chaos and reconnect with him by avoiding these common setbacks.

when will he wake up?

Feeling somewhat married, a bit divorced, and a bit of a widow? You're not alone. Learn how to navigate this and predict how long his midlife crisis will last. This exercise will help you anticipate when your husband will wake up from based on 8 key factors.


This resource will help you see your husband based on who he is at heart so you can better relate, connect, and avoid conflict over simple personality differences.

do's & don'ts "cheat sheet"

Keep this helpful resource in your desk or a safe place at home to stay focused on what you should be doing to recognize patterns and avoid common mistakes you thought you were careful to avoid.


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"I have listened to the course about 15 times. It is the only information I have found online that has given me any hope to save the man I love.

This course has helped me better cope with my current situation and given me some insight into what is going on with my husband, and what he is going through. Everything that was mentioned in this course about his behaviors and how he's been acting has been spot on.

This course has given me a sense of relief. On the days that are not so good, I replay and listen to the audio recordings to help me get through my "breakdown" moments. It also helps me refocus, and gives me hope about my overall goals. Strategies of how to respond, act, and cope around him while dealing with his "monster," and insight on why this is happening has been so helpful!"

Nicole Jordon

Ocala, Florida


We understand privacy and discretion are important to you. This is why this course is delivered electronically online, rather than shipped to your home. Nothing will be shipped to you at any time.

Once you place your order, you will be redirected to a page where you can instantly gain access to the course materials online. You will also receive an email with a link to the private course download page so you can reference the materials later on. If you misplace this email, simply contact our office and we will send you a link to gain access to the course again.

What others are saying...


Julia Johnson

Toronto, ON

"Your help has been invaluable in teaching me about my husband's midlife crisis, how to deal with it, and how to kill the monster inside me!  You offered clear, concrete ways to improve our situation.  Things in our marriage have become much more stable."


Ariana Garcia

Manchester, CT

"Larry is amazing! My husband invited me and my 4 yr old on his own and texted me while he was out with his friends tonight!  He has been acting like he used to. All of the tips you provided have been so helpful and they all work!  I'm not stressed and I feel great actually."


Samantha Boyle

Glencoe, IL

"I thought your midlife crisis course was INCREDIBLY valuable.  I changed my ways and immediately saw a response from my husband.  I LOVE your man versus monster analogy.  It is so true that I can tell immediately when he is the monster and there is no use talking then.  It's like someone invades his body."


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Get instant access to my Chaos Kid Radio series where you will hear from Chaos Kids married to other Chaos Kids who managed to find relief in their marriage.

One of segment features special guest Debbie Berndt whose Chaos Kid husband got on a plane and left the country without notice!

Debbie shares what she learned about herself, her husband and her children as she reflected on their childhood programs and taught her children some of the insights she learned along the way. Debbie reveals some eye-opening revelations that truly changed her life.

What others are saying...

Mary Carlson

Pharr, TX

"After enduring this situation for four months, your audios have helped me tremendously to take away my sadness and guilt.

Your work has truly given me the turning point from confusion and despair, to a clear, objective mindset to see this as not something to take personally, but to see as a condition that I did not cause.

This is the first moment in four months that I can feel the freedom of guilt. Thank you so much."

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Frequently asked questions

Should I get my husband involved?

99% of the time, the answer is no. Chaos Kids in a midlife crisis are rarely open to new ideas, especially ideas that come from you. Chaos Kids refuse to accept responsibility or admit that they are wrong. In fact, just the opposite is true.

If you approach your husband with this information, he will tell you that YOU are the one who needs help and that you should “go fix yourself” because you are the cause of problems in the marriage. The rare exception would be if your husband has long been going through a midlife crisis and has finally seen the damage he has inflicted on the family. At this point in time your husband may be ready to learn, but most of the time, it is best to keep this to yourself for now.

how do i know if my husband is going through a midlife crisis?

If the 5 rules of a Chaos Kid at the top of this page ring true for your husband, he is going through a midlife crisis. While age is not always a factor, a troubled childhood home IS always a telltale sign of a midlife crisis. There are many things that can create a Chaos Kid. Even if you think he had a decent childhood, the fact that you're here now signals there is more to the story.

what if he's filed for divorce and told me it's over?

Anything your husband says to you at this point is based on the anger of his childhood. That anger is directed at you and YOU are now the enemy. Whether it is you or any other woman, your husband would STILL go through this at some point in his life. Like a ticking time-bomb, his rage has been there since day 1 silently waiting to erupt since he was young.

For this reason, it’s important you don’t put too much emphasis on what your husband says to you. Chaos Kids’ emotions wildly vary from one day to the next. One day, he will want a divorce, the next, he’s not certain it is over. Nothing is permanent in a midlife crisis – even divorce papers. Focus on surviving the crisis, maintaining the emotional security of your children, keeping yourself healthy (both mentally and physically) and not giving up on the love of your life.

does everyone go through a midlife crisis?

Absolutely not. People who come from a troubled home who live on the higher side of the Chaos to Purpose scale (shown above) do not go through a midlife crisis. Only those on the lower end of the scale are saddled with the dark programming ‘machine’ from their past.

As an adult, this programming tries to recreate ‘normal’. If their life was filled with chaos, abuse and neglect as a kid, that is what the brain will try to recreate as an adult. We call this a midlife crisis.

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Once your order is processed, you'll be redirected to a private page with all of your materials. You'll also receive an email with a link to the materials so you can access it at any time. Access to this course does not expire, so take all the time you need to complete it.

Larry Bilotta
Author of "How to Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis"

P.S. No matter what you decide, trust that you will be okay in the end. If you aren't okay, it's not yet the end.

P.P.S. Remember, there is nothing shipped to you, so you don’t have to worry about your husband finding out about this course and you don’t have to wait for it to arrive. You’ll get access to the entire course and all 3 bonuses immediately after you order.

You have my support and you are backed by my 100% satisfaction guarantee for a full 30 days, so you’ve got nothing to lose and a much greater understanding of the pain that the love of your life is going through right now and why he (and your kids) desperately need your help.